About Rhonda

Who I work with

You may be longing for closeness while finding it hard to trust, speak honestly, or ask for what you need. Perhaps you spend so much energy keeping other people happy that you lose track of yourself. You might feel anxious, despairing, or worn down without quite understanding why.

I work with individuals and couples navigating these difficulties, including the lasting effects of childhood hurt, betrayal, grief, and neglect. Sometimes the ways you learned to protect yourself earlier in life can make it harder to have the connection you want now.

Sex and intimacy are also an important part of my work. You may be struggling with differences in desire, recovering from sexual harm, exploring your sexuality, or find that aging, illness, or menopause has changed what feels comfortable or pleasurable. I welcome diverse genders, sexualities, and relationship arrangements, including asexuality, polyamory, and kink.

I also work with people questioning their beliefs, recovering from spiritual harm, or making sense of powerful spiritual or psychedelic experiences.

How I work

You don’t need to arrive with a clear explanation of what’s wrong. We can piece together what feels difficult, confusing, or hard to say.

I listen closely and let you teach me what life is like for you. Together, we pay attention to the situations where you get stuck: what happens, what you feel, what you hold back, and what you wish could be different. We listen to what your body is saying too. We slow way down for feelings that are difficult to name, words you’ve never said aloud, or the silences that speak louder than words.

You may have losses to grieve or experiences you’ve never had the chance to talk through fully. We also make room to try new things: asking for what you desire, setting a limit, or questioning an old belief about yourself.

I bring warmth, curiosity, and a willingness to stay with difficult things. What matters to you guides our work, including what we focus on and how quickly we move.

How I work with couples and partners

You may keep having the same argument, avoiding difficult subjects, or feeling lonely beside someone you love. Perhaps trust has been damaged, or conversations about sex leave one or both of you feeling pressured, hurt, or misunderstood.

We look closely at what happens between you, and inside you, when connection breaks down. We slow those moments down so you can recognize familiar reactions and practise responding differently.

That might mean learning to make a clear request, listening without immediately defending yourself, speaking honestly about your desires, or repairing a hurt without returning to the same argument. We make room for each person’s experience while looking at how your actions affect one another.

I care about helping you build a relationship where affection, respect, pleasure, and honest conversation have room to grow.

About me

I love being a mom, a gardener and living a quiet and simple life. Whether I’m walking my dog, making music or hanging out with loved ones, I like to savour the beauty around me. Having my hands in the soil, nurturing plants, and caring for the people I love are central to my life.

I’ve spent more than 35 years accompanying people through joys, losses, and change. Earlier in my career, I was the pastor of Christian churches in Alberta for over 20 years, and I trained and worked as a pastoral counsellor and chaplain. Questions about love, belonging, meaning, and how we live together have remained important to me as my own understanding has grown and changed. A long and fulfilling meditation practice is part of my life too, and I’m happy to teach it.

Today I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor with the BCACC. I see clients online from anywhere in British Columbia.

I delight in the variety of ways people live, love, and understand the world. I want to know what matters to you and help you build a life and relationships that you take delight in, rather than want to escape from.